Watching your calorie intake is necessary to lose weight. Research shows that dieting makes the brain release appetite stimulants, which increases one's craving for food. Imagine the plight of the dieter when someone says things to make him cave in to temptation?
Words are the most powerful means to influence the mind of others, mostly those who are trying to achieve something through a great deal of hard work, patience, and self-control, as for losing weight. It's not easy, and takes a lot of perseverance and dedication. You might have been struggling with your weight for years, and you know how debilitating it is!
It is self-control that proves to be the weak link among all the other must-dos of weight loss. Join the gym, hire a trainer to push you to exercise, consult a dietitian, but what matters is how you manage to overcome those internal cravings that may be influenced by certain "external" factors, such as, "inappropriate comments" from those around.
If you know what it is like to travel through the phase of weight loss, you would never say something "inappropriate" to those who are sailing in the same boat. If you are watching a close journey of adapting changes in their lifestyle, be cautious of the words you say, they may either make or break the person's enthusiasm before they even taste blood.
Worst Things to Say to Someone Trying to Lose Weight
For example, if you have been unsuccessful in losing weight and tell another, "Oh! Come on ... we are curvy women and this is how we're made. Weight loss is a total waste of time. This is how you and I will always be!", what will the final impact on the enthusiastic be?
Well, understand that if certain things don't work for some people, doesn't mean that they're futile. Instead, one should take inspiration from those who were once a size 10 and have now become a size 4. Listed here are the dialogs that you should never utter to someone who aspires to see their bodies without the extra weight.
For example, you might go through a phase when an obese lady at the gym come to you and say, "Don't get frustrated. I have been coming to the gym for two years and look at me, it doesn't really seem to help. I just come for some socializing." She tried to comfort you, but you might completely put off by her statement, as she was a member of the gym.
Why would you try to demoralize a person who is putting in so much to get in shape? Because it didn't work for you, or maybe you gave up too soon, doesn't imply that the other person will share your fate. One should always look at people who have achieved their target, not those who have played the blame game.
Some day, after speaking to the trainers in the gym you might find that though that lady was a member for two years, she never really followed a low-calorie diet; took breaks for months; and had a thyroid problem! So, the next time you pass such a statement and demoralize others, ask them, "Did you really give it your one hundred percent?"
As soon thus she opens the door, her dialog is, "Oh my! I have heard you're dieting these days. I have made your favorite dessert today, vanilla cheesecake! Just take a break from starving yourself." Well, it was all out of love and concern, wasn't it?
Have you realized the damaging aftereffect of, "love disguised as food"? Many of us fail to be on the same page as others when it comes to the definition of healthy eating and dieting. The problem is that we are constantly surrounded by people who are overweight, and therefore, being overweight is considered to be okay, and is often termed as "healthy".
We may think that dieting is a punishment, but for some, it is a process of reformation. So, the next time a calorie-conscious person visits your home, don't welcome them with a calorie-loaded dessert, or pass any such statement. They will appreciate your understanding.
You've joined the gym? Causes a lot of injuries!
You and an overweight woman had a discussion on weight loss. On finding you joined a gym, she reacted as, "Oh, you have joined a gym. I don't know ... doesn't the weight training cause a lot of physical injuries? I prefer yoga any day." Telling others that they have wasted hundreds of dollars to get injured at the gym, is the most terrible thing to say.
Weight-training requires the right posture where the pressure needs to come only at the targeted muscle group, not elsewhere, otherwise it may lead to muscle strain and injury.
Many people prefer watching YouTube videos and work out without the proper guidance of a trainer, thereby injuring themselves. Yes, injuries are common, but instead of saying that, "Going to the gym can cause injury.", wouldn't it be better to say, "Take help of a trainer to avoid injuries."?
Some people do go overboard when it comes to dieting and weight loss. But still, using the word "skinny" may seem a bit of an exaggeration. The important thing to understand here is that your definition of skinny would not fit into theirs.
Maybe they want to reach a certain size within a set number of months, maybe it was the fact that they were wearing clothes that made them look narrow. Until you don't "genuinely" see the need to warn them from becoming anorexic, there is no need to pass such remarks.
One fine day someone who knows you're trying to lose weight, comes to you and says, "You look like you've been eating." Wouldn't you feel devastated?
This is the most terrible thing one can say to someone trying to lose weight. Have you ever wondered that may be the person looks big because of what he is wearing? Or perhaps, got a new haircut?
If you know the person is struggling to lose weight, giving his best, and passing such a comment makes the person feel like a loser, like all their time, effort, and money was spent in vain. Getting hold of the next sugary or carb-filled junk food and eat like there is no tomorrow, not out of craving, but out of disappointment.
You're working out aren't you? Just one li'l bite won't add those pounds back! This is a very vicious line indeed. Something like, "Buy 1 get 2 free". You agree for 1, but you end up taking many bites.
Earlier, we have explained how our brain functions when we know that we're on a diet. The appetite increases to a great extent, and one li'l bite leads to a huge portion. Agreed, that one bite would've been delicious, but it would also ruin the persistence of the person who is already trying hard to control himself.
Pretty much like an alcoholic who is just out of rehab, one small drink would often lead to binge drinking. So, if a person tells you 'no' in the first place, do not push him or her for that 'one li'l bite'.
Most people offer these temptations on purpose, perhaps out of jealously! What sounds like a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity may take a person back to square one, when it comes to a successful weight loss mission. You need to understand that there is a difference between those who diet to remain fit and those who diet to lose weight.
It's written somewhere, "The taste of losing weight is better than any other taste in the world!" So, let the person taste success. If you really want to give a treat, save it for later, Italian restaurants are not running away anytime soon.
No! you are not allowed to eat that!
There are some people who love playing the "food police", out of concern, but at times, saying the right thing, such as "No, you're not allowed to touch that at all!" may result in the wrong consequences.
We humans are the most unpredictably weird creatures on the planet. The way our mind works, the way we react to certain things, is surprising. You know the line, 'Tell me I can't and I'll show you I can'. Though the author meant to write it in a positive way, it also has a negative side to it.
Telling someone that you can't have a second helping strokes their ego, and the person ends up eating more just to prove a point. While you're trying to be nice, don't try to be the boss.
While we do live in a free country, and have the freedom to put forth our thoughts and opinions, understand the degree of difficulty the other person is going through. If we can't inspire them in any way, best don't pass any statement―be it out of concern or jealously―and let the person move ahead towards achieving their goals, without any comment issues.
For those of you who are on the receiving end, make sure you don't take these statements seriously, and stay focused on your currently healthy lifestyle. Success comes to those who persevere.