Some are born with an inborn talent of talking to people in any kind of situation and convey their ideas. For some people, it becomes a 'nerve wrecking' task even to start a light conversation, and especially when the other person is a complete stranger. This inability of talking to people becomes more intense when the other person is of opposite sex.
Carry a Smile
A gentle and relaxed smile always reflects a warm and decent personality. A smile is a good way to start any conversation. In some situation wherein you find it awkward to talk to people, just carry that smile of yours, and you'll be amazed to find that people will actually start talking to you!
Before you start talking, make sure that you are in a good posture, and maintain a proper eye contact with the other person. Keeping eye contact increases confidence level and puts you on 'the driver seat'. It also exhibits that you are interested to converse with the other person.
The point of agreeing or disagreeing to the views holds a secondary place, but it is important to remember the golden rule that says, 'Respect the speaker!'.
Keep your focus on what the person at the other end says, and acknowledge at the same time. Active listening helps replying to any questions asked and acknowledging shows your interest in the conversation.
Try asking close-ended questions as the person might not be in a mood to talk much. Questions such as , 'Was your day a good one?' or maybe 'Are you disturbed by any chance?' are examples of close-ended questions. Keep your tone gentle and reassuring; this will help in giving a moral support to the other person and calm his/her nerves.
This therapy strives towards guiding the person's thoughts in a more rational manner and helps the patient to avoid situations that cause anxiety. Medications are also included to help a person counter this disorder. Counseling sessions for personal development techniques and social skills also help in reducing the disorder.
It's all about feeling good about oneself and building confidence. Talking to people is not a difficult task as it seems. Developing a tinge of humor also helps in triggering a talk with friends and even strangers. The ability to talk can be acquired and mastered upon by anyone. All what is needed is correct guidance and determination to fight the odds.