Not all of us are extroverts and ready to take the world by storm. Many amongst us are shy introverts and may even feel a bit isolated from others. This usually happens when a person is still in his or her teen years and going through the socialization process. However, some adults too may sometimes feel awkward in many social situations. So what can a person do to overcome this tendency to be awkward? Let's try to find out.
Stay in Shape and Dress up Well
Sometimes, awkwardness could be due to one's tendency to worry about their weight. When you are not in shape, you tend to get very self-conscious. In order to avoid this, inculcate the habit of exercising everyday. Secondly, dress appropriately. If you dress up as if you have just stepped out of a 1980s film when actually it is 2011, there is no doubt that you are bound to feel awkward about yourself.
Smile and Stay Positive
Always keep a smile on your face. If you look gloomy, cry, or get angry at the drop of a hat, nobody will actually like being with you. On the other hand, a smiling, happy, and positive person is appreciated by everybody. Smile when you meet acquaintances or even strangers, say a cheery 'hi', and automatically some of your awkwardness will vanish.
Increase your Awareness
Many a time, awkwardness around people could be because you do not have anything in common to talk about. Increase your knowledge and awareness of the world around you. Tune into local, national, and international news. Even be updated on the latest college gossip! The more normal conversations you are able to have with people, the more your awkwardness will diminish. Find common grounds to talk with the people you are out with.
Participate in Team Activities
This one really helps. Awkwardness generally develops when a person remains aloof and isolated from others. In order to change this situation, participate in group activities. For instance, if you are a reading aficionado, join a book club. Participating in book reading sessions as well as debates will help get rid of your awkwardness. Choose any activity of your choice, be it playing team sports or joining a dance class, and soon you will find your comfort level around people increasing day by day.
Develop your Personality
Being a book-worm or an Internet addict will not get you anywhere. To develop your personality and for self-improvement, inculcate a hobby, a passion that adds meaning to your life. Learn singing or try adventure sports. Something as simple as listening to music will do wonders too.
When meeting a girl for the first time, simply say "hi, how are you?" with confidence. Learn to make small talk about the weather, her daily routine, hobbies, etc. Refrain from asking any personal questions. Keep the conversation light. Also, do not harbor a tendency to impress each and every girl that you meet. Just act cool, without feeling the pressure to appear good and interesting all the time. The same rule applies for a party. Parties are all about having fun. Even if you do not know many people at a party, ask a friend or an acquaintance to introduce you to others and then take it from there.
Acting with confidence (it's all right if initially you fake it), displaying a positive attitude, and being friendly and open towards others will help you immensely in overcoming your awkwardness.