How to Identify a Backstabber
They may even use this as a revenge or a way of pulling you down, to reach the top. They pretend to be all nice on your face and lift your ego for no apparent reason by filling you up with their ultra-sweet talks, before bursting your bubble.
Whether it's your friend or someone at work, knows all the information and gossip about everyone. Pay attention to such people. They talk badly or gossip about someone else in front of you, and again about you behind your back. They not only spill your secrets, also spread rumors coated with spices, like wildfire.
Within no time, it becomes a daily and never-ending habit, only to leave you mentally exhausted in the end. And when you know you're not the reason behind every fight, even though you may be blamed for it, take this as a HUGE sign.
Take a close look into your friendship once if there's a person who claims to be your 'best' friend but always displays a vanishing act whenever you need him/her. We tend to overlook this sign, often shrugging it off as a coincidence. However, you need to know that this is one of their obvious giveaways.
However, analyze the situation well so that you don't make a mountain out of a molehill. Don't just blindly give in to your gut feeling and accuse someone of something. If you turn out to be right, you'll save yourself from all the drama and stress. And if you're wrong, you know someone's definitely got your back!
How to Deal with a Backstabber
Try to remain calm and keep your cool. You don't have to ignore the situation, but you also can't obsess over this malicious behavior of your frenemy.
Try not to indulge or contribute to any kind of gossip with anyone. Also, try not to get involved in any private conversation, especially with the one who you feel is not the right kind of person to discuss personal matters. If you can't avoid being with anyone, then make sure you listen more and talk less.
Chances are that they will manipulate or deny all of it, and make you feel guilty instead. Focus on to what you have to say, and don't get bogged down by their explanations.
If that is the case, apologize for your actions and try to mend things. If this is not the case, you'd have learned a lesson in the end. Be happy that you were saved from all this drama sooner than later.
If nothing works, probably it's time to end the friendship, and free yourself of that toxic friend and all the negativity in your life. It will definitely hurt now, but it's surely going to be worth all the pain in the end.