Risky But Worth it: How to Deal With an Angry Person

Mukta Gaikwad Apr 19, 2019
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Dealing with an angry person takes patience and some focused effort. Take a look at the four steps in learning the finer nuances of anger management.
There is no evil that compares to anger, for it has the power to reign your mind with the most malicious thoughts. Anger prompts you to do things, which you would normally think twice before doing. This precise fit of rage, makes it extremely difficult to deal with an angry person.
However, with a few tactics and a little patience, your dealing with an angry person can be made into a plausible effort. Firstly, a person with anger issues isn't aware of his problem. Thus, while dealing with an angry person, you cannot lose your patience.

Dealing with a Person's Anger

Problem Recognition

Whether the question is about how to deal with an angry husband or with an angry boss, the first step is to recognize the problem. The most common mistake made by most people, when it comes to dealing with anger, is playing the blame game.
Sadly, this only adds fuel to the fire and the person fails to see the problem. Thus, recognizing the problem as a genuine one, which needs to be treated is very important for treating it.

Confronting the Problem

The next phase of how to deal with an angry person, is confrontation. Now that you have taken notice of the issue, you need to confront the other person about it as well.
Keeping it to yourself and treating it without telling the other person, will not help. Communication plays a key role in treating the problem. Thus, talking it out with the other person and listening to what they have to say is an important part of this treatment.
Make a mental note of triggers that cause bouts of anger. The triggers may be small or big in nature. They may seem insignificant to you. However, you need to understand the problems from the other person's point of view to treat it once and for all.

Focused Problem Solving

Once you know what the triggers are, solving the problems becomes much more organized.
It is easier to design a methodical approach to solve the problem and most importantly it helps you and the person being treated, keep a track of the progress. For instance, if a dirty kitchen is the cause of anger every morning, then cleaning it at night, taking turns to clean it or hiring help to clean it can be a few solutions to the problem.
Instead of getting angry over these trigger points it's necessary that you look for ways to solve them instead. The trigger is thus, eliminated and its frequency of recurring is also reduced. Once the person learns the benefits of problem solving, the energy is cleverly diverted to look for solutions. This way, anger can be managed over a period of time.

Being Supportive

Accepting the problem is a huge step on the person's part. Plus, accepting your help does take a lot of mental mending too. At this juncture, the person needs your support and love to get over this problem.
Thus, appreciate small changes and reward them with little trinkets and compliments. Harshly punishing the person will only backfire and make the person lose belief in himself.
It should be understood that the person is not aware of his problem and is to be treated with extra care and attention. Avoiding triggers is no way of dealing with the problem, as they are always of a recurring nature. Peacefully resolving the problem is the only method to solve issues that aggravate the mind. Stifling or ignoring only worsens the situation.