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Bereavement Messages

Batul Nafisa Baxamusa Sep 29, 2018
Are you looking for some ideas to say the right words in bereavement messages? Some sample bereavement messages are given here, that will help you choose the right thing to say, at such a difficult time.
When one loses someone to death, it turns out to be the most difficult time to overcome the loss. In such a difficult phase, one is at a loss of words that can help show his or her support as well as sympathy for the person going through this phase to overcome the dark period.
You have to send over a bereavement message, along with a gift to the family of the deceased person. But, you need to be careful as you do not want to sound insensitive or upset the bereaving family.
You can simply say 'I am sorry', when you are sending along an appropriate gift to show your deepest sympathies. You need to keep in mind that you are not just sending over a simple bereavement message, but your supportive thoughts to the mourning family.
You can help brighten up their day or make them feel even worse with your sympathy messages. Therefore, you need to follow some etiquette while sending over your bereavement messages.
While sending over your sympathy messages, remember:

~ The sympathy card or bereavement message should be sent, as soon as you hear about the death.

~ The message needs to be short and simple. Do not use a complicated language and lengthy paragraphs that makes the family feel even more miserable.
~ If you were very close to the deceased person, you need to show how much you miss him/her and what the deceased meant to you. If you were not very close to the deceased, just acknowledging the death will be more than enough.
~ When you sent over your bereavement message, write your full name when signing off the message. You do not want the family wondering who sent over the thoughtful sympathy message.

Sample Bereavement Messages

"Dear John and Mary,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
We are sorry for your loss."
~ Love, James Matthew and the Matthew Family
"Tears are sometimes an inappropriate response to death. When a life has been lived completely honestly, completely successfully, or just completely, the correct response to death's perfect punctuation mark is a smile."
~ Bereavement: Burchill, Julie
"Never does one feel oneself so utterly helpless as in trying to speak comfort for great bereavement. I will not try it. Time is the only comforter for the loss of a mother."
~ Bereavement: Carlyle, Jane Welsh
"Dear Mary and Family,
We are so sad to hear that you lost your dear John, cherished husband, loved father and grandfather. Our condolences."
~ James and Anne Jones

Sympathy Messages

Sympathy messages should follow the basic rule of being short and simple. Remember, though you too must be shocked of hearing the news, try to avoid begin overly sentimental or dramatic. Being subtle is the key when passing on your condolences.

Sample Sympathy Words

"I am here for you."
  • 'John' was a wonderful person. I'm so sorry 'John' is no longer here with us."
  • "My thoughts and prayers are with you"
  • "John will be dearly missed"
  • "With heartfelt condolences"
  • "I am sorry for your loss"
  • "My deepest sympathies during your time of loss"
  • "Peace, prayers and blessings"

Bereavement Messages Examples NOT to Be Used

There are some bereavement messages, phrases or saying that you should not use while writing a sympathy card. These examples should be totally avoided while writing sympathy messages.

Avoid the Following Words and Messages

  • "I know how you feel"
  • "Time heals all wounds"
  • "[Name] is in a better place now"
  • "I hope you feel better soon"
  • "This too shall pass"
  • "[Name] won't suffer anymore"
  • "Call me if you need anything"
  • "Tomorrow will be a better day"
  • "It's all for the best"
  • "It was his/her time to go"
  • "I know you miss [Name]"
  • "Sending happy thoughts your way"
These were a few sample messages that you can send over with flowers or some appropriate gift. You need to be very careful with your words, as you do not want to hurt the family's feelings. Also, do not overdo the emotions as you may look like a fake. The sympathy messages should be sincere and subtle.